Monday, July 31st, 2006 at 7:47 am by EbonyMom
After months of saying I was going to read The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate I’m very pleased to say I finally found it and read it. My best friend recently completed a Bible study focused on the book and found it life changing, I must say I completely agree with her recommendation.
Although the book is focused on healing and strengthening marriages I’ve really found it beneficial in self therapy (looking back at my own childhood) as well as a new approach to my own children. I’m definitely one who focuses on words of affirmation as a primary love language. Between this and being a highly sensitive person I definitely see how deeply affected I am by positive and negative words. Now I know that as a child it wasn’t just the physical discipline from my parents that hurt me so badly, it was the harsh words and yelling that went along with it that really shook my being to the core.
One thing that I treasure about my husband is that every time we talk on the phone, no matter how brief or short he tells me he loves me before we hang up. I grew up in a home where love wasn’t blatantly expressed. Sure my parnts did tons to take care of my brother and I and overall although there are things they did I don’t agree with they were good parents, but I craved that affirmation of love so deeply I wound up looking for it in a lot of places I shouldn’t have been. I’ve quickly seen just how significant speaking all of the love languages to the children in your life can make a difference.
What’s your love language? Here’s a quiz to help you figure it out.